I think my best friend at school is a prostitute and I don’t know what to do about it. We are both 15 years old and very insecure about our sexuality. My girlfriend is acting weird and allows boys to slap her bum, feel her breasts and all she does is giggle. I told her that’s sick and she should not let them disrespect her like that. My girlfriend said she like the attention she is getting from the boys because it makes her feel hot and high up on the social ladder. I couldn’t believe what she was saying,. As we were talking one day a guy passed by us and called out to her ‘”hey whore who’s the bitch?”I told him I hope he was not referring to me because I would take him up to the Principal. He went away saying “whatever”. My friend was mad with me for reacting that way. She said I was too uptight that I should relax and have fun. I told her I did not think that was fun and that I don’t think I want to hang out with her and her friends anymore. I have not spoken to her in weeks and the funny thing is I don’t miss her but I know she’s hurting and I feel sorry for her. Those boys just taking advantage of her weakness and need to be popular. There is a little part of me that feels guilty. I am fighting that because I don’t want to be disrespected by those loser guys she hangs out with.
Dear little guilty,
You have done the right thing to protect yourself. You cannot help your friend, all you can do is to be there if she needs you to listen. She is going through the “complicated teen-age syndrome” which is like prostituting her body for the attention of boys. Her desire to be popular is greater than her self-esteem and because her sense of self is none-existent, I think she will do whatever it takes to be noticed by the boys and in the process lose her soul until she hits rock bottom when she will be forced to look at herself and see the mess she has made of it.
Unfortunately, your friend is among many young women who as the cliché says “have gone totally wild.” These girls behave like animals and have no shame in the way they pander to men to have sex with them. It’s totally disgusting. I am happy that some girls have their heads on and in control of themselves and feel that they deserve respect rather than be treated as a sexual doormat which is the way some boys treat women and girls these days. The standard needs to be raised and girls need to stand up and say enough is enough. Boys will take whatever latitude girls give them. You will find if you respect yourself they will show you respect. Good on you, you go girl. Stick to your values principles and respect yourself.