I am 26 year old and was raised by Baha’i parents. I am not a practicing Baha’i though I believe in the principles of the Faith. It is the only Faith I know, having gone to Baha’i classes and stuff like that when I was a child. But I have listened to some other religious views and I find them quite arcane. I believe the Baha’i faith has the most common sense approach to religion and its principles of Oneness, Unity in Diversity, equality of men and women etc. are all what is needed today and what’s happening. I met a boy who has all the qualifications I needed for a boyfriend, he is smart, kind, respectful and generous but he belongs to the evangelical religion and he is very excited about it and very much involved. He believes in the literal story of Adam and Eve and against homosexuality etc. He is very conservative in his thinking. I find that a problem. He does not see it as a problem. In conversations, his reference point for most ideas comes from the Bible and I’m getting weary of it. Sometimes I feel I should be happy I have found such an upright, clean type of person who does not drink or smoke and sits on a high moral ground. Do you think I am being too rigid or discriminatory or something like that? Please give me your perspective? Undecided
Religion and politics are two areas that people usually have strong emotional attachment to. The beliefs we hold in these areas govern our day to day lives whether we are aware of it or not. I think you have already determined that the relationship would not work out since you are so far apart in your religious beliefs. What kind of a relationship do you foresee if your partner is kept busy with church activities while you remain at home or do something else with other friends? How would you feel when he counters an argument with quotes from the Bible? How would you feel if when you are with friends he comes out with Bible quotes in conversations? Love will not help you unless you are open to giving the religion that he practices a chance. Evangelicals tend to interpret the Bible arguments or discussions will end? Someone may get hurt and or frustrated. I think unless you can honestly compromise your religious beliefs or non-beliefs, the relationship will not be a happy one. Walk away now.