Recently my very good friend bought a dog. At first she treated the dog like a typical dog and she left him home by himself when we had to go for coffee. In the past few weeks my friend has become more attached to this little dog and cannot seem to go anywhere without it. She wants to take him in restaurants and when she is ordered out with the dog she calls the waiters stupid and feels very offended. I tried to talk to her about separating herself from the dog. People do not even carry their little babies everywhere like that. She just don’t get it.
I moved into my new apartment and bought my new rug and my friend came over to see my apartment and without even asking me brought the dog over. As soon as I saw the dog I felt violated but I thought I put up with it for this one time. She told me the dog was trained but the dog peed on my new carpet and I was mad as hell. She started yelling at the dog and I felt that was unfair to the dog since it’s what dogs do, they are not human beings. The next thing she did was to take down one of my bowls to feed the dog water and I told her promptly that she could take the bowl as I would never eat out of a bowl that is used for a dog and she was offended. I asked her not to bring the dog back to the house because it’s not something that I like at all. My friend was shocked and hurt because ot if but I felt if we are to continue our friendship I had to be honest. Do you think I did the right thing. My friend appears to be giving me the cold treatment.
Addicted to dog
Dear Addicted to dog,
Your friend will get over it if she is a friend as you say. You did the right thing by being honest. Your friend had no right taking such liberties such as bringing her dog over to your apartment especially as it appears you do not have any pets and reaching into your cup board to take your good bowl to feed her dog – how rude!
Pet lovers must have consideration for those who do not share their passion and if they can’t well it’s natural someone has to tell them in plain language to get lost with their pet.