I am a 20-year-old university student from Morocco and I find myself madly in love with a Canadian woman twice my age. She is beautiful, gorgeous and she does not treat me like a younger person. She gives me respect. She is smart. We spend a lot of time together. She reached out to me during the first few months of being in Canada. She invited me to her apartment for dinner, took me to meet her family, just like a good friend. I used to say she is like my mother but now I am sorry I said that because I am so attracted to her. I want to see her all the time. I think she is attracted to me too but scared because of the age difference. I need to be with this woman, how can I break through the barrier of age, how can I let her know that I love her and want to be with her more than a friend.
Gratitude can sometimes be mistaken for love. Friendship can also be misconstrued for something deeper. While the age difference is significant I’ve seen people transcend age to be together before and I don’t believe that age should be a limiting factor between consenting adults. However be cautious, you would not want to spoil a good friendship if declaration of your love changes a perfectly great relationship.
I suggest you spend some time away from this person, give yourself a break to reflect on your feeling, it will also give her time to figure out if she cares about you more than a friend. After about six weeks apart reevaluate your feeling, then be honest about feelings you are having for her making sure to tell her that you do not want to lose her friendship. If she is not interested, leave it alone for another couple of weeks without mentioning it again. Perhaps you can try to date another woman. If she was playing hard to get, she will be the one to reach out to you. Sometimes it’s all a game. Seriously, focus on your studies and go with the flow. Love will come your way another day if this does not work out.