My friend is very upsetting. Whenever she has a bad day she uses me as her dumping ground by putting me down and hurting me. I do not enjoy her company anymore and wants to end our friendship. We have been friends for a long, long time and I hate to give that up because there is a sort of comfort in the fact that I have a friend from way back when and whom I do not have to explain everything to because she knows me so well. What do I do? Do you think this is a salvageable relationship or let it go by way of the dinosaurs?
For everything there is a season. Perhaps the season of this friendship has come to an end but you keep holding on because of habit. If something is not working for you let it go – suffering is optional in this world. You don’t even have to say anything to your friend, just start doing things with other people and whenever she asks to do something just say this truth you’re busy or you’d rather not this time. Once in a while you might want to go for coffee with this friend, so instead of closing the door completely, just leave it a little open. Perhaps the problem is you not confronting your friend and letting her know that her behaviour bothers you. That’s okay just acknowledge your own part in this drama and when you feel strong enough talk to her about the way you feel. For now, just spend time with people who lift you up, make you feel good about yourself.