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Who’s my baby father?

Dear globalcounselor,

I am 25 years old and am 8 months pregnant. I will have my baby in a few weeks and I do not know who my baby father is.  My boyfriend thinks it is his but I am not so sure. Around the time I became pregnant my boyfriend and I had a big fight and I went out partying with my girlfriends, drank a lot and made love with an old boyfriend who happened to be around. I do not love him but I guess it was the alcohol that made me do it.  My boyfriend and I made up a few days after that and had sex. This is my first child and I really want it to be my boyfriend’s. I don’t know if he can handle a child that’s not his. Should I tell him or should I just keep this one to myself.

Cheated

Dear cheated,

What a dilemma you’re in. The good book says honesty is the best policy but sometimes I think too much honesty might not be in anyone’s best interest.

There is 50 per cent chance that the child is your boyfriend’s.  Are you planning to marry this boyfriend. Is he reliable and is serious about your relationship?  It’s not point getting into all that with someone who may just walk away from you.  If he his going to stick around, if he is really into the child, I think you owe it to him to fess up now.  These things have a way of backfiring at a time when you would have a lot more to lose than now. What if the child needs a blood transfusion?  You will not only be lying to your boyfriend but to your child and all this can have serious repercussion in your life at a time when you want stability. If your boyfriend really cares about you he would accept this child as his own.  The child could be told when he is old enough to understand.  A father is much, much more than a sperm contribution, it’s being there when a child really needs someone and whoever that person is, is the father.

Words to Live By – George Carlin

Every now and then something good comes through the email and I want to share this with you because it touched my hard. 

What a difference a sad event in someone’s life makes.

  
GEORGE CARLIN (His wife 

  recently died. ..)


 
Isn’t it amazing that George Carlin

– comedian of the 70’s and 80’s –

 could write something so very eloquent…and so very appropriate.
A Message by George Carlin:
 


The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but

shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend

more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less.We have bigger

houses and smaller families, more

conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more

knowledge, but less judgment, more

experts, yet more problems, more

medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too

little, drive too fast, get too angry,

stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much,

and pray too seldom.  

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too

much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living,

but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all

the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered

outer space but not inner space.

We’ve done larger things, but not

better things.  

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We

write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve

learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more

 information, to produce more copies

than ever, but we communicate less and less.  

These are the times of fast foods

and slow digestion, big men and

small character, steep profits and

shallow relationships. These are the

days of two incomes but more

divorce, fancier houses, but broken

homes. These are days of quick

trips, disposable diapers, throwaway

morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do

everything from cheer, to quiet, to

kill . It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing

in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to

you, and a time when you can choose

either to share this insight, or to

just hit delete…  

Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe , because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to

the one next to you , because that is

the only treasure you can give with

your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, to say, “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it . A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

If you don’t send this to at least 8 people….Who cares?

George Carlin