I am 25 years old and am 8 months pregnant. I will have my baby in a few weeks and I do not know who my baby father is. My boyfriend thinks it is his but I am not so sure. Around the time I became pregnant my boyfriend and I had a big fight and I went out partying with my girlfriends, drank a lot and made love with an old boyfriend who happened to be around. I do not love him but I guess it was the alcohol that made me do it. My boyfriend and I made up a few days after that and had sex. This is my first child and I really want it to be my boyfriend’s. I don’t know if he can handle a child that’s not his. Should I tell him or should I just keep this one to myself.
What a dilemma you’re in. The good book says honesty is the best policy but sometimes I think too much honesty might not be in anyone’s best interest.
There is 50 per cent chance that the child is your boyfriend’s. Are you planning to marry this boyfriend. Is he reliable and is serious about your relationship? It’s not point getting into all that with someone who may just walk away from you. If he his going to stick around, if he is really into the child, I think you owe it to him to fess up now. These things have a way of backfiring at a time when you would have a lot more to lose than now. What if the child needs a blood transfusion? You will not only be lying to your boyfriend but to your child and all this can have serious repercussion in your life at a time when you want stability. If your boyfriend really cares about you he would accept this child as his own. The child could be told when he is old enough to understand. A father is much, much more than a sperm contribution, it’s being there when a child really needs someone and whoever that person is, is the father.