I am a 62-year-old young at heart and in love with a man five years my junior. Globalcounselor, this man has been playing with my heart for more than a year. He would go hot and cold all the time until I had given up, thinking I am too old to play this game. We go to the same church so we run into each other at least once a week. He and his wife have been separated for about two years. Recently he has been more open and we have actually gone out on a date and he has asked me to go for a ride with him in the country. I am so excited but I am also afraid of reading too much into what’s happening. I just want to enjoy it but I am so nervous waiting for something bad to happen, waiting for him to go cold again and break my heart.
How can I just let go of my doubts and enjoy this relationship? I am afraid to be hurt again. I have been hurt many times.
Nothing ventured nothing gained. There are no guarantees in life and unless you are willing to take a chance you cannot expect lady luck to smile on you. This relationship is skating on thin ice and I think you know it. This love interest might not be sure whether his marriage is over or there may be a chance to reconnect with his wife. Becoming involved quickly after a relationship ends can sometimes be misguided. Sometimes we jump into relationship to make us feel better, to ease the pain of losing the one we love so I would advise you to go slowly, know what you are getting yourself into. He may not be ready. You can enjoy the relationship for what it is and see where it goes, live in the moment. If things do not work out I am sure you will handle it maturely and move on to new horizons. I am sure you know the risk you are taking. You’ve been around the block so let go and experience the joy of the love you feel and leave your fears for another day. As the saying goes you regret what you haven’t done that what you do. Good luck.