I have been unfaithful to my husband with a co-worker and I feel wretched over it. I never meant for it to happen. I love my husband so much but I was out on an evening of staff get-together and had some drinks. I obviously drank too much and one of my male colleagues with whom I have had a good cordial platonic relationship with offered to drive me home. On the way home we stopped for a hamburger and we sat in the car in the parking lot to finish eating before taking off. One thing led to another and before I knew it I was in his arms and we made out. We were both shocked at what had happened because my coworker is married as well. Needless to say, our relationship at work is strained and I am feeling guilty on both counts – because I cheated on my loving husband and another woman’s husbands. My coworker said his wife can never know about this because he loved her. I feel like smut, dirt and I don’t know how to repair it. Should I tell my husband what I did and risk the end of my marriage or should I keep this to myself.
While honesty in the best policy there are times when it’s better to keep some things private. If you love your husband and he loves you and you have a good relationship then try to put that behind you. Why risk the break up of your marriage over one night’s indiscretion? What your husband does not know will not hurt him. What has happened cannot be undone so leave that in the past and build a stronger , more loving relationship with your husband. Maybe you might want think about what alcohol does to you. You said you lost control of yourself and your emotions. Now that you know that when the situation arises the next time you will do the sensible thing.