I am am a 16 year old White girl and am pregnant. I know I cannot afford to keep my baby and I do not want to have an abortion. I saw the film Juno and I think the film was sweet. It was awesome how Juno was mature about giving up the baby but I wonder if it is that easy in real life. I want to do the same thing. I want to find a family I like to have my baby but I am afraid. What if I change my mind and what if I keep the baby and then regret it when I cannot go out partying with my friends or treat the baby badly because I am mad at it for robbing me of my youth. I am confused. I have not told my parents about my pregnancy yet. I am only two and a half-months pregnant. I know they’ll be disappointed. I know I made a mistake but I want my life and to finish my education. I don’t want to me a mother yet. Help me.
You are too young to be dealing with this alone. You must tell your parents and get them involved in making the best decision for you and the baby. They may be disappointed at first but they’ll come around if they truly love and care for you. Make sure you let them know what you would like to do. Maybe they may have some suggestions but if you do not like their suggestions, it’s your child and you do what your heart says is the best for your child. Some parents opt to adopt their own grandchildren so that they do not have to leave the family and be raised by strangers. You have to think whether that is what you want for your child and whether it is a good thing. These are serious choices for a 16 year old but they are choices affecting another’s life and require you to give the matter serious all the consideration possible. You may also, in addition to your parents seek out the help of a professional counsellor. Community based organizations exist in most cities and towns that offer free counselling to girls in your situation.
I saw the film Juno and while it is a sweet film, it is only a film. It is never that easy in real life so you can forget about using Juno as a model. I think you are a smart, intelligent girl who is trying to do the right thing and you will. My final advice to you is to put the interest of your child first. Any decision you have to make, ask yourself the question, am I doing this for my child or is it to please someone else. Good luck.