My best girlfriend is bugging me out. We get along all the time except when a guy is part of the mix. She becomes someone else, this barracuda. She would cut me off and pretend she is so vivacious and outgoing or whatever this person wants her to be. I get so disgusted and annoyed at her. She dominates the conversation. I feel that she is competing with me for the man even though I might not have the slightest interest in him. Every time she does it I swear it is the last time but she is a nice person, a sane person otherwise, and I like her company. How do you think I can maintain my friendship with my friend and have a decent conversation with a guy who I might not be interested in. I should mention both my friend and I are divorced and looking for our third relationship. We are in our mid-fifties for context.
Dear bugged out,
Most of us have a friend like whom you describe. That woman who goes crazy when a man is in the room. It seems the older women get the more crazy some become, not to stereotype women. I apologize if anyone is offended. Sometimes you have to humor your friends like that and shake your head and say to yourself, there goes my friend again. On a more serious note, most often people are not aware how they behave and if you should draw it to their attention, they will deny it. It seems as if this friendship is important to you. My advice is to either speak to your friend, tell her what’s bugging you, or accept her without judgement and find the humour in it or finally whenever there is going to be a man about you go by yourself or with other friends who are not as stirred up about a male’s presence as your good friend.