Afraid of being anorexia

Dear globalcounselor,

I think I’m in the early stages of anorexia and I think my mom is to blame. She always balks at me about eating too much and that I will get fat. She is not concerned about my health, just that I eat like a pig and that I will get fat. She has criticized so much that each time I want to put something iim my mouth I think of getting fat and ugly and my appetite disappears. I feel fat and ugly. My friends tell me I am not fat but all I can see when I look in the mirror is my fat and ugly self.  Am I anorexic, is my perception crazy. What should I do. I hate being anorexic but I seem to be afraid to eat.

Anorexic

Dear Anorexic,

What your mother is doing is not effective.  Some parents think they are helping their children by ridiculing them about eating too much but they are doing more harm than good. You sound like a sensible girl and the fact that you are worried about being anorexia means that you are conscious of the dangers and do not want to be that way.  What you may be trying to do is to please your mother. You are afraid you might gain weight and she might not love you as much.   While it is true that some teenagers eat a lot of junk food and do not exercise a lot and that could result in being overweight, I don’t think that parents should deter children from eating healthy food.  Parents should be concerned if a child is inactive and eating a lot of empty calories. Parents should encourage their youngsters and teenagers to engage in some form of exercise or sports to bet a minimum amount of exercise per week but parents should not make their children hate food which is what your mother is doing though she may not mean to do that.

Food is something we should love. Eating food is pleasurable but we have to know our limits. If you feel you might be overeating keep a journal of the amount of food you eat. Generally if you stick to lots of fruits and vegetables, whole wheat breads and stay away from white breads, sugary stuff, chips and stuff on a regular basis you will be fine.

 

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