My boyfriend disappeared at Christmas

Dear globalcounselor,

I recently started dating a man. We’ve been dating for about three months but just before Christmas he disappeared from my life. I left phone and text messages, but he did not return not one of them. I spent the holidays alone. I did not receive a card let alone a gift from him. I was so disappointed and hurt.  Guess what, yesterday I heard from the creep wanting to come over. I asked him where he was all this time, over the holidays. He said he had to be away. He was very vague and unapologetic. I told him no thank you, it’s  a new year and I am moving in a different direction. I believe he was just being cheap. He did not want to spend any money on me to take me out or buy a gift. Silly me I had bought him a gift but he’s not getting it. I am taking it back and get my money. His behaviour disgust me.

Disgusted.

Dear Disgusted,

I must say your friend’s behaviour is rather strange. You must have thought a great deal more about  the relationship that he did. People usually like to spend Christmas with their loved ones and girlfriends and boyfriends but this guy is something else. I think you’ve made the right decision to move on. There are plenty of fishes in the sea, go find someone who shares the same idea of a relationship.

I am feeling the blah

Dear globalcounselor,

I am 63 years old and I feel  like I have lost my mojo. I am not interested in any thing. I am single, not in great shape and have a good job. I have lots of friends but someone I feel joyless. I do not know what I am supposed to do. I feel kind of loss and tired of working but I need to work for a few more years to bring my pension up to snuff. I don’t feel as if I am depressed just lethargic, uninterested in life and don’t know what to do about it. Any ideas?

joyless

Dear Joyless

Sounds like you’re in deep funk. Could it be a low-down after a hectic holiday, could it be you have over-extended yourself financially. It is not unusual for folks to have that let down sort of feeling. I believe this will pass after a few weeks into January. It might be helpful to do something different and fun. Start a new hobby, take a recreational course , try to meet some new friends and see what happens.  Maybe it’s time to find a significant other in your life. That could spice things up a bit. If the feelings persists for weeks without letting up you might want to talk to a counsellor to sort out your feelings.