Worried about my daughter

Dear globalcounselor,

My daughter is 28 years old. She has one divorce under her belt, one failed relationship after that and is in another relationship.  I think she is jumping around too much and not giving herself enough time to grieve over the loss of her husband which I believe was a big blow to her ego and self-esteem.

He was the love of her life and after 5 years the marriage ended. He just wanted out and she was not ready. I think she sees the failure as a failure in herself.  I told her to seek counselling but refused. How can I help her see that she is just making things worst for herself by jumping from one relationship to another.  I am worried she may have a total melt down and then what?

Worried mom:

Sometimes that’s what it takes to make a person stop running. She has to be stopped in her track and most times, let’s face it, children do not listen to parents. They will do what they have to do.  My advice to you is to be there for her, to support her through this difficult times.  Give her unconditional love and let her know that you are the one person she can count on.  She will find her way. Keep the lines of communication open, not with scoldings and judgements – that will push her away – but with love and compassion and prayers. Give her lots of hugs, if she will let you.   Losing the love of your life is hard and people do what they can to survive.