I’m dating my best friend’s boyfriend

Dear globalcounselor:

Let me me blunt. I am 28 years old woman and I am dating my best friend’s boyfriend and I feel awful because we’re planning to break the news to her as soon as possible. We have been dating for 4 months now.

Ryan wanted to keep her in the dark a little longer to be sure we are not hurting her for nothing real. I know I love him and I want to be with him. I know he loves me and wants to be with me. We are more compatible. I know my girlfriend will flip out and call me all the worst names in the book but in the end I think she will thank me because I know somewhere out there is her soul mate. Ryan is my soul mate and I can’t imagine my life without him.  We are so together. I love my girlfriend a lot and I’m not being unfaithful to her. I never planned this, our relationship just happened when we found we were so drawn to each other. If there is a way you know that I can save my friendship and still have my best friend’s boyfriend please, please, please share that with me asap.

asap.

Dear asap:

No my dear, I do not know how to break the news of double losses to a heart broken woman. She is losing her best friend and her boyfriend.  When events  like these happen a girl turns to her girlfriends for comfort and if you are it then she will be pretty sore.  But she is a big girl and ought to be able to handle the news. She will be mad and hurt but out of respect for your friendship I think it is imperative to let her know before someone else tells her.  You will have to eat humble pie, let  her rant and rave. Assure her that you value her friendship and hopefully this will never happen again. It may be hard for your friend to trust you in the near future but time is a healer. Good luck.